Sexless Marriages

Just how many normal, happy, sexy couples turn their lives of wedded bliss into sexless marriages?

Far more than you think.

Researching numerous sites, blogs, forums, research reports and government fact sheets will find you plenty of numbers. Let me tell you, they vary greatly. (Due to respondents having different beliefs.)

Sexless Marriages. Non verbal communication

Not every unhappily married couple is prepared to voice their concerns to strangers through questionnaires.

Reports suggest the number could be as high as a quarter of all those who take nuptials end up experiencing sexless marriages.

“One couple interviewed for SEETHINGS gave two different answers about their levels of intimacy.

She said their sex-health was fine. He admitted they hadn’t been intimate in months.

It’s a sexless marriage – but neither of them said so.”

In Japan, the number is higher. Complex social issues have had an adverse impact on relationships in general. Sexless marriages are almost as common as not with 47% of married couples reporting having a dead bedroom.

In the Bible Belt, the numbers are significantly lower. Christians who follow religious doctrines diligently rarely talk about their sexual dysfunctions, preferring to let God and Faith deal with intimate relations.

When it comes to sex and religion, the two have always been uneasy bedfellows.

Sexless marriages discussions fall into a couple of frequently listed points:

  • Boredom
  • Cheating
  • Health
  • Laziness
  • Neglect
  • Fall out of love
  • Distraction
  • Erectile Dysfunction
  • Pornography
  • Counseling
  • Abuse

Abusers (a term now used by an neglected spouse) knowingly and disrespectfully disregard the sexual needs of their partner.

The abused experiences a sense of helplessness. They descend into a cycle of emotional pain. It’s mixed with disappointment, depression, anxiety, frustration and anger.

sexless marriages causes silent pain

Abusers often remain unaware of how much pain they cause. They deny accusations and deflect questions on matters of sex.

“The more frustrated of spouses plan holidays alone or take up a hobby that specifically excludes the abuser.

‘Cocooning’ is an act of desperation – to control a space of their own.

The most desperate ones take a lover… or their own life.”

Monogamy is a demanding relationship construct. It ORDERS us to be everything for our partner, ALWAYS and FOREVER.

Sexless marriages lead to a feeling of guilt

We’re told there will be bumps along the way. If true love and commitment exists, happiness and peace will prevail. Failure to achieve these leads to feelings of guilt.

For those in long term sexless marriages, there’s only so much fantasy and guilt that can be dissolved into reality. If our partner doesn’t seem to care no matter how hard we try, what the hell are we to do next?

Hi. I’m Michael Forman, author of SEETHINGS.

I’m thrilled to have you here. I’ve had a great time bringing my sexless marriages narrative into the light so someone like you can read and understand it.

SEETHINGS was at the core of my goal to bring human’s animal to the surface of consciousness. Between the inner-conflicts of sex, romantic love, guilt, desire, Faith and civility lies a Beast. One way or another, it will wake and take charge.

SEETHINGS is deeply confronting. It’s also challenging and has an ending you’ll never see coming. You will be shocked.

It’s is available in Paperback and eBook versions. You’re only seconds away from reading SEETHINGS in all it’s diabolical glory!

Michael Forman (Author)


‘Forman’s writing style is artful, with the protagonist Mitchell’s warped thought processes masterfully exposed. The author has a powerful and vivid command of language and his word pictures are stark and disturbingly real.’  – Linda J Bettenay, author of ‘Secrets Mothers Keep’ and ‘Wishes For Starlight’.

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